The Changes No One Warned Me About
By Liza Truter · 14 July 2026 · 2 min read
Nobody sat me down and told me this part.
That somewhere in my forties, my body would quietly start doing its own thing. That I could eat the way I always had and still watch the weight settle around my middle. That the week before my period I'd break out like I was fifteen again — real, sore, grown-woman breakouts. That my cycle would come when it felt like it, skip a month to keep me guessing, then arrive unannounced.
For a while I thought it was just me. That I was doing something wrong. That I'd let myself go.
I hadn't. My body was changing — on its own timeline — and no one had warned me it was coming.
I'm not a doctor, and I won't pretend to have all the answers. What helped me most wasn't a quick fix — it was giving my body time and care instead of a fight: better food most days (not perfect), moving gently and consistently, supporting myself with natural products, and — maybe the hardest part — being kinder to myself about the ups and the downs.
Some weeks I feel great. Some weeks I don't. That's allowed.
If you're in this too — the weight that won't shift, the breakouts before your period, the cycle you can't predict — please hear this:
You are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you.
So many of us are quietly going through the exact same thing, too afraid to say it out loud. That silence is the loneliest part. So let me be the one to say it first. 💛
This is my own experience, not medical advice — please chat to your doctor about anything that worries you. If changes in your body, skin or cycle are bothering you, a check-up is always worth it.